Children 'are used in divorce battles'
LETTER: I felt I had to write in after witnessing a good friend of mine being totally humiliated in his home town. He was shouted at (words which I cannot repeat), had two fingers stuck up at him and was almost spat at.
I felt I had to write in after witnessing a good friend of mine being totally humiliated in his home town. He was shouted at (words which I cannot repeat), had two fingers stuck up at him and was almost spat at.
What makes this worse is that they were children – a 12-year-old and a 14-year-old.
After going through a very messy divorce the parents managed to sort out their differences and agree to do what's right by the children. Until that is the mother found out the father had dared to get a girlfriend.
Now suddenly the children hate him, he's apparently a terrible father (even though they were together for nine years and at the time he was wonderful). And now it's come to solicitors and eventually court.
But if the children only hear the mother saying bad things, how is the father supposed to have any kind of relationship with his kids? This is happening far too often and I beg the parent bringing their children up (mother or father) not to use the kids as weapons.
It messes up the children's heads and you are taking away their right to have two parents bringing them up.
When a 14-year-old child says they wish their father were dead and never wants to see them again (all because he has a girlfriend), you have to ask if that's healthy for the child, what kind of influence are they getting at home?
Please, put your children first, stop using them to score points, they have a right to know their dad.
After all we are a long time dead and sorrys are no good then.
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