I have pondered this too. I was seven when my mother’s mother died. She had been living with us and I adored her. She waas girly and knitted me dolls clothes when i lived in a house very male dominated.
I remeber being told about heaven and her being up in the sky.Iwas teased by siblings telling me she was in the ground being eaten by maggots so I buried my plastic doll to see if this was true. I didn’t like to bury it dressed but it seemed wrong burying it naked. Anyway it was dug up by a brother and created more merriment for them and humiliation for me!
I can remember lying on the grass looking up at the sky thinking when I die I’m going to look at this bfore i go because next time i look I’ll be looking down!

I was never allowed to go to any funerals on the basis my mother did not want us to see her or more likely, my father cry, I think?
I loathe all the religious claptrap on the Archers which has got worse in my view but I like to think we are more aware and sensitive to what we tell young children today and would acknowledge their pain too.

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I am 29 and never been to a funeral, my Mum told me that they were not a place for children and the only funerals she could not stop me going to was her’s and my Dads, Obviously now being 29 there are more people in my life and she would never dream of “stopping” me, but i have always respected my Mums descion and never been to a funeral. Was she right? Yes i beleive she was in the case of myself as i was a very sensitive child and she knew i would not be able to handle it, does this rule apply to all Children? No i agree with Vamperic and it should be down to the parents to make the right decsion for their child.

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I was not allowed to go to my Dads funeral when I was seven. I have never forgiven my mother from stopping me saying goodbye to my Dad. She had no right to make that decision for me.

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