I completely empathise with this story, having been regarded as the ‘other woman’ in this situation (wrongly as it happens, but why let the truth get in the way). My husband has painfully realised that frequent ongoing contact with his children only deepens their anguish as they continue to hear dreadful and untrue things about both him and I. After 5 years of trying, unsuccessfully, to blend our 2 families together, we have had taken the heartbreaking decision to reduce contact with my husband’s children to try to protect all of our children from this spiteful and vengeful behaviour. So, I echo the sentiment that as adults we have full responsibility for our children’s welfare and must, at all times, consider that paramount. We are, after all, raising the next generation of parents.

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When I first read this story I thought it was about me, and I am sad to say that clearly I am not the only dad to have found himself and his children in this awful position.
Unfortunately my children are still subject to this behaviour by their mother after a number of years. My ex-wife seems consumed with a vengance to destroy my relationship with my children – but at what cost?
So much is her determination that she literally can’t see the damaged that she in undoubtably causing the children.
Her attempts have included alienation, lies, deception, removing the children from school to name but a few.
I can no longer contribute to the anguish, upset and confusion and have taken a decision much as the second contributor in an attempt to protect the children.
And what of her latest angle you may ask, simply to tell the kids – “See, I told you your dad doesn’t care about you”.

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i blame the eu for the break down of marriage in this country, too many children grow up with the sin of divorce over them, we should get out of europe and tighten the law to promote marriage (of the hetrosexual sort!)

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but it is a political issue – labour have destroyed the family with their benefits and tax system and we will fix it byt rewarding marriage through the tax system and penalising divorcees through cutting their ‘double benefits’

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dear Confused,

Tory Boy is not a tory, he is probably a Brownite Socialist who uses his postings to try and convince people that his rants are tory policy.

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I agree with tory boy marriage is not rewarded by this labour party . Divorce is no longer frowned upon?? why ??? man/woman walks out on there kids he pays (she does’nt) for them monthley like a new car so all is well then is it???.
Divorce 99% of the time is from two people who are CHILDISH AND MORONIC INDIVIDUALS WHO shouldnt have got married had kids in the first place, we hear stories of she wanted to go out , he wanted to go out with there mates . he/she wanted me time whats all that about you do not have it when you have children SELF SELF SELF BRITAIN ALL OVER AND NO FAMILY LOYALTY INFACT THEY DO NOT SEEM TO CARE A LOT ABOUT ANYTHING.APART FROM NEW CARS AND HOLIDAYS.

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tories family values suck

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