Blog: Why I took my kids out of school and on holiday
Wednesday 23rd June 2010, 7:30AM BST.
My plea is guilty, confesses Ben Bentley.
Guilty of showing my two daughters the sea, of letting them play on the beach with a bucket and spade, of allowing them to bury me up to my Adam’s apple in sand and roundly laugh at me.
The moment is captured for posterity on my mobile phone. When I look at that picture today I think: “That moment was educational. For the human sandcastle as well as for my kids.” It was at least as educational as the lessons my eldest daughter would have been doing at school at the end of term (ironically, it was a seaside project involving a bloke who takes donkeys into schools) when we took them out of the classroom.
No-one died, no-one got hurt. But a ‘crime’ had been committed. And that ‘crime’ was that we were holidaying during school term time. And that, without being able to demonstrate ‘exceptional circumstances’, is, according to some school rules, simply not allowed.
The inflammatory issue of taking your kids out of school during term time has hit a nerve. A Shropshire Star feature on the subject earlier this week showed that few parents who have children of school age do not have an opinion. Everyone I spoke to about the topic ran off at the mouth, raging on one side of the argument or the other. Our website has been besieged with comments from all sides of the argument.
At this time of year, it’s a modern-day predicament. What about the single parent on an offer of a cheap break with their kids? Or workers who can’t take leave during school holiday time because other colleagues have booked that time off already?
The problem could be solved at a stroke if holiday companies didn’t rip us off. Like many parents on an average wage, I cannot afford to pay inflated holiday prices that kick in the moment school’s out. But I can’t imagine going into a travel agents, turning out my pockets and saying “This is all the money I’ve got. Go on, give a week in Egypt.”
I see the error my ways, M’lud. Ultimately it is my fault for having kids (and no, I’m not being sarcastic – you pays your money and you takes your choice). Although I see it’s quite all right for schools to close early to let kids go home to see a World Cup football match. Are these “exceptional circumstances”? If my holiday was World Cup related would they happily authorise my children’s absence?
I recognise that taking kids out of school is wrong, disruptive and a threat to standards (those pesky targets again), and I would not have done it had our kids been taking tests or missing important parts of their education (our eldest is six, the youngest is two-and-a-half).
In mitigation, I should mention that my wife is a teacher and we also did some work with our school-age daughter similar to that she would have been doing in the classroom.
To which the judge would, presumably, hike up my sentence on the basis that therefore we should have known better.
So I am guilty. In the worse case scenario, under the current system our family could be fined up to a total of £400 for an unauthorised absence, or worse, taken to court for not paying the fine. From September some county schools are banning unauthorised absences altogether.
I’ll take my punishment and I won’t do it again.
Honest.
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The worst part about taking your kids out of school for a holiday is that it annoys childless people who deliberately try and take their hols off-peak in an attempt to avoid the brats.
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absolutely agree. Most of us single and/or cfbc (child free by choice) workers CANNOT take leave during July and August or over Christmas because the people with children are given priority. We have to take leave “out of season”.
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When I take it you can enjoy child free locations at a greatly reduced rate to those charged during the july/august period.
Swings and roundabouts I think.
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Yes it’s cheaper but the facilities are reduced when there’s no kids so we’re no better off being childless
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So if your wife is a teacher then why is she out of school?
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I always think these so called childless people who use it as an excuse to moan are a pain what do they contribute far less than families.
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Actually by way of council tax we contribute a fair bit for nothing because I have to pay £700 per year purely to have bins emptied. I don’t use any other council facilities except maybe the leisure centre which again I have to pay for to subsidise others. I wouldn’t mind but at the end of the day childless people do support those with children through taxes (even on a low income i wouldn’t get any tax credits) on the understanding that the favour will be returned when their time comes to be parents. Since I never plan to have kids I’ll be contibuting to other people’s kids all my life so please don’t abuse the public education system that my taxes help toward my taking kids out during exam time.
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Grow up, perhaps you should have some kids to stop you moaning, how did you get to local taxation from kids having time out of school during term time, i think you have too much time on your hands
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You what ccbc – you must be having a laugh.
Do you not use roads? – repairs paid for from council tax.
Do you not shop – goods kept safe by trading standards and ensure you are not short changed on weights and measures – paid for by the council tax?.
Do you never eat out or buy food from shops – kept safe by environmental health officers paid for from the council tax.
Do you live in a house near other buildings – kept safe during construction by building control officers and areas kept nice by planning officers.
Do you not plan on dying as crematoria are paid for by the council tax.
You obviously never use taxis as you have nowhere to go – but these are licensed and paid for from council tax.
And this is just the start. Unless you are some kind of hermit who lives in a field I would respectfully suggest that you get an awful lot more than your bins emptied for £700. Still – spoils a good ill informed rant though doesn’t it?
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@ccbc
… and other people’s kids will grow up to pay taxes and NI, contributing to the NHS and *your* state pension. With any luck they will work and contribute to the wealth of the nation for all of us, so yes, we should all pay for their education and care.
I agree about rip-off holiday firms though.
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Agree with the writer, a week at the seaside as a family when your children are 6 and 2 is a fantastic boost to their wellbeing and education, also yours.
There is a huge difference between kids of primamry school age spending quality family time and 16 year olds missing their exams.
As for CCBC, presumably you will need other people’s children to look after you when yo are old: doctors, nurses, people to maintin your house car. Of course it is your human right to not have or have children but I think you should affod some respct for the people that are bringing up a diminishing number of children that will keep the country going in the future.
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do primary school children miss anything that could not be taught to a monkey in 20 mins due to a term time holiday of a week or so?
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